*Warning* ADULT CONTENT

This post isn't going to be risqué or have naughty pictures.  It isn't going to be an in depth study of my marital obligations.  But I'm going to write today about something that I have wanted to write about for a long time but haven't had the courage.  Primarily because I don't want to have people thing "Oh my gosh I can't believe that girl is writing about S.E.X.  Now I'm never reading her blog again."  Because it's not even an enticing blog post about sex.  It's just an observation.  So I'm just going to put it out there.

What I want to talk about today is "holiday sex".  C'mon...don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about.  I do not believe that my husband and I are the only couple who have "holiday sex".  In the beginning, almost 12 years ago, holiday sex was IMPERATIVE.  We didn't miss a holiday.  It was unheard of.  We felt like we had to celebrate every holiday...in that way.  Don't get me wrong.  We LIKED celebrating the holidays.

And then something changes.  As you grow older together, and especially when you bring kids into the mix, it's a little more complicated to have "holiday sex".  And for women I think it becomes less important (in general-not just the holidays).  Moms especially.  We are tired.  We've been busy all day, whether it be inside or outside the home.  We cook.  We clean.  We try to keep it all together.  And we forget to take care of ourselves.  Emotionally and sometimes physically.  And so we don't feel sexy.  We don't feel beautiful.  And we don't always get as excited about the holidays as our male counterparts do.

My husband and I still talk about "holiday sex", even if we happen to miss it.  And not to get too personal, but we haven't missed very many holidays!  Sometimes we just amusingly try to see if we can overcome the challenge that is fitting that in (no pun intended!) on the holidays.  But now I'm at a point in my life, and I do not think I am alone in this, whether there are 2 holidays where the tables are turned.

Men look forward to the holidays...because they know (or at least hope) it's a day they can count on celebrating.  Women, on the other hand, have two holidays where we can play the "Please Not Today" card, and get away without too much resentment.  Our birthday and Mother's Day.  I just find it amusing.  It's probably not even worth posting it here.

I guess I am just wondering if "holiday sex" is a part of your relationship...or are me and my husband just really weird? And how many of you out there look forward to Mother's Day or your birthday because you know you can say "You know what I REALLY want for my birthday?  To not have to have sex."  That way, if we do, it's MY choice.  But I don't have to feel guilty if I choose not to!